Healthy Relationships: Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Exhaustion

I’m always hurt and stressed out in interpersonal relationships even though I’m kind to others? In fact, being kind and being kind to others is not the only way to maintain good interpersonal relationships. If you’re feeling tired and stressed in interpersonal relationships right now, check to see if you’re doing the following.

Try to be friendly with everyone

When you go to work or school, there are some people who try to be friendly with everyone.

If they can’t get along with people, they feel alienated and think that the other person doesn’t like them or that there’s something wrong with their personality. So they hide their true personality to fit in with the other person’s personality, and they end up exhausted and discharged from the emotional labor of relationships.

If you’re the latter, you don’t have to try to be like the former. The size of your relationships has nothing to do with your personality.

Relationships are something that come naturally, not something that you force.

They’re good at comebacks and laughing

There are some people who feel like they have to laugh when someone says something, even if it’s not funny, and they feel compelled to react as if they’re empathizing even if they’re not. This type of person can’t stand gaps in conversation. Those few seconds feel so awkward that they constantly try to fill them with reactions. They are particularly blunt when it comes to taking care of themselves, but they are sensitive when it comes to reading other people’s mood swings, so they try to be more attentive to other people’s feelings. The truth is, they don’t want you to react, and they don’t appreciate it. If you don’t find me funny, you don’t have to laugh, if you don’t empathize, you don’t have to empathize. Just be honest with your feelings and express them. The most important thing is you, not others.

If you’re nice to someone, they’ll be nice to you.

However, in relationships, there is no exact give and take. When this type of person does something for others, they think, “I’ll give back what I’ve given,” but that’s wrong. There are people who will do more for you than you do for them, and there are people who will not do as much for you as you do for them. You have to accept that there are a lot of different people in this world. Not everyone is like you. People’s feelings and behaviors are not the same as buying things with money. Don’t be hurt if you don’t get as much in return as you gave, but take it as a sign that you communicated your feelings. Giving because you want something in return is never pure, it’s just your own greed.

I’m afraid of losing relationships

You could have been close to someone in the past. Now, you’ve grown apart. You have anxiety about losing them? People who are very affectionate often blame themselves for the breakup of a relationship, so in future relationships, they try to behave in a way that the other person likes so that they don’t leave their side.

However, other people may see this as a burden. They might consider it a ploy to please them. This is not the best way to maintain a relationship. It’s natural for relationships to break up, just as there are breakups. It’s just a natural breakup of a relationship that happened over time because you weren’t compatible. Because there was such a broken relationship, there is a new relationship beside me now. If you feel yourself growing apart from someone, think of it as the expiration date. It’s not good for you to eat spoiled food.

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